What Would Sita Do in 2025? Understanding Diwali Beyond Ram and Towards Shakti

Oct 27
4 min read

While We’re All Wrapping Up Diwali and Holidays…

While we’re all wrapping up Diwali and the holidays - packing away diyas, sweets, and decorations - let’s pause for a moment. Before life rushes back into its usual pace, let’s remember the story behind the celebration.

Because Diwali was never just about the return of Ram. It was also about the return of Sita - her grace, her endurance, her quiet strength. Her story still lives inside every woman who walks into a new home and learns to hold her light through darkness.

In an Indian Wedding, She Walks Alone

In an Indian wedding, the groom arrives with his barati, dancing, singing, and celebrating. And after marriage, he takes his wife along - but she goes all alone, walking with the entire barati squad, leaving behind everything she has ever known.

While she enters her new life through old traditions, it’s important that people make space for her nuances, her ways, her emotions - and not expect her to simply follow the old traditions of the house she’s entered.

The Invisible Battle

To continue, she’s often ganged up on and gaslighted -

“It’s your fault.”

“Only if your parents had taught you the basics.”

“You’ve married and come, so you adjust.”

“This isn’t your maika.”

“Yaha aise hi hota hai.”

Blah blah blah.

They curse.She struggles.

Since always, women have been asked to adjust, accommodate, and sacrifice - all so that “ghar mein shanti bani rahe.”

No one sees the pain of fighting all those battles alone. Leaving behind with the feelings of unseen, unheard, unvalued the Lakshmi of home cries in the corner of dark rooms, while the house is lit with Diwali candle lights.

Lakshmi toh ghar mein hi hai..kisi andher re kone mein khud ko khoj rahi hai.

People forget - Shakti needs to be celebrated, not blamed. A house that doesn’t understand this truth breeds unhappy children and raises difficult adults.

The Voice of the “Old Dadi”

I still hear old dadis saying —

“Toh kya hoga beta, humne bhi toh kiya?

Hume thodi bolne ka adhikar tha?

Ab tum karo, aise hi ghar chalta hai.”

But those eras were different. Marriages happened at 16 or 17. Understanding and learning were different too, she was trainable then, or may I say wounds of her silence is heard int he rebel of women today. Irony is women of yesterday are the ones who is giving away their pain as if they are transferring to their heir.

In many Indian households even today, adults derive their identity through teaching children values — all the time. And I mean all the time. They still operate from a place of

“tum toh bache ho, tumhe nahi pata,” even when that child is 40 and the one actually providing for the home.

This isn’t just about ego - it’s about identity. Their sense of wisdom and authority comes from being the “teacher.”And if that role is questioned, they feel lost. The time they were married was different - slower, smaller, limited by what was taught to them.

Now, they use microwaves, smartphones, and TVs - but still refuse to learn new ways of thinking, feeling, and relating. Because emotionally, they still live in the world they once knew. And that’s where the real identity clash begins - between tradition and transformation, between authority and awareness.

She Is the Shakti

Because when the woman - the maa of the home -is happy, the house flourishes.

She is the Shakti, the heartbeat of the home.

She is Saraswati, the voice of wisdom.

She is Durga, the protector.

She is Kali, the destroyer of darkness. And above all,

She is Lakshmi, the bringer of light and abundance.

Diwali in 2025: Not Only for Ram, It’s for Sita Also

So while you return from your Diwali celebrations this year - don’t forget - Diwali is not only for Ram, it’s for Sita also.

Because light did not return to Ayodhya through victory alone. It returned because Sita came home too - carrying grace, endurance, and strength that no exile could take away.

This year, as the world redefines equality and empathy, Sita’s story reminds us:Resilience is not rebellion.Grace is not weakness. And adjustment should never mean erasure.

Celebrate her light.Celebrate her resilience.Because when she shines, the whole house glows.

From Parita & SEVEE

At SEVEE Care, we see Sita in every woman who holds her world together - quietly, fiercely, and faithfully.This Diwali, light one diya for her - for the woman who left her world to build yours. As a mother, daughter, wife, friend, sister, nurturer, protector and many many roles that she plays as a hero and as a supporter.

If you’ve ever felt unseen or unheard, reach out to us.Visit SEVEE CARE — a safe space where emotional healing meets empathy, not judgment.