Future Faking: When They Promise You Forever, But Deliver Confusion A RAWON Playbook blog by Parita Sharma | SEVEE Dear you, If you ever found yourself dreaming of a future that never came…waiting for things they said they'd do...believing in a version of the relationship that only existed in their words... You may have been future faked . And I say this with warmth — not judgment. Because I too once held onto timelines, "one day" plans, and emotional promises that never showed up. What hurt the most wasn't that the future didn’t happen —It’s that it was never real in the first place. Let’s name it. Let’s walk through it. Gently, together. What Is Future Faking ? Future faking  is when someone paints a beautiful picture of your future together — marriage, travel, kids, retirement dreams — but has no real intention of making it happen. They use these promises to keep you close, obedient, forgiving, or emotionally hooked. It’s not a plan. It’s a power move  — one that feels like hope but leaves you empty. Signs You’re Being Future Faked They talk big — “We’ll move in soon,” “We’ll start a family,” “We’ll travel the world”, "I will never drink again", "I will never be hard on you, mentally or physically", "Next time - I promise, you will have no complains", — but never follow through. You find yourself waiting for their future  instead of living your own present. Whenever you question them, they delay with excuses: "Just give me time," "After this project," "You don’t trust me?", "I am also a human, I can make mistake", "One more chance, you have always been kind and gave me chance", "I need your help", "You are the only one I share with", "You know how much I love you",. (Add Yours _________) You feel guilty for asking them to show up for the things they  promised. If their words feel like a dream but their actions feel like avoidance — trust the mismatch . Why Do Narcissists Use Future Faking? Because your hope is their leverage . Hope keeps you from walking away.Hope makes you ignore the discomfort.Hope makes you silence your gut. To a narcissist or manipulative partner, future faking  is a low-effort, high-impact way to keep you close without offering real intimacy. They’re not building a future — they’re buying time. How It Feels (And Why It Hurts So Much) It feels like heartbreak in slow motion. Like betrayal in a velvet box. You weren’t just losing them  —You were losing a future you believed in. And that grief is real.It ’s not silly. It’s not dramatic. You mourned a life that was promised , even if it was never delivered. SEVEE Says: Let’s Come Back to the Present You were not foolish. You were faithful. You listened to words and held on to hope — because that’s what kind people do. But now, let’s shift. Let’s stop waiting for the life someone once painted for us — and start creating the one that’s real. Book a session with SEVEE You deserve truth, not timelines. Steady love, not stolen years.

When your safe place shakes, how do you stay steady? Why do parents fight or separate? Sometimes it’s loud. Sometimes it’s quiet.But when your parents are constantly fighting, cheating, or headed for divorce, one thing is certain — it rattles your world. Here are some common reasons couples reach that point: Lack of emotional connection Long-standing resentment or blame Financial stress and responsibilities Unmet expectations or communication breakdown Infidelity, insecurity, or trust issues In-law or cultural clashes Midlife crisis or personal dissatisfaction What they show you is just a glimpse.Their marriage is a mix of past wounds, personality traits, stressors, and sometimes unresolved trauma. It’s not your job  to fix it. First and foremost — know your own boundaries Your parents may be hurting. But they are also grown-ups . They are capable of handling their choices, however messy. Getting involved in their fights, taking sides, or trying to be the emotional glue will only exhaust you . You don’t know the full story — and that’s okay. Your job is to protect your peace , not play therapist, judge, or savior. When your ideals break — It’s okay to feel broken If your parents were your role models, watching them fail to meet their own values is painful. You may wonder, How can the people who taught me honesty now lie to each other? This emotional conflict can lead to: Feeling unsafe or ashamed Questioning your own values Becoming emotionally detached But remember — their actions are not your identity . What will people say? How to face society and friends In Desi culture, shame is a silent enemy.Neighbors whisper. Peers judge.Sometimes even relatives treat you like you’ve become “less.” But let’s be clear: You don’t owe anyone an explanation You are not your family’s PR manager You are allowed to say “I don’t want to talk about it” What people say is not more important than your peace . What’s my role as their child? It’s easy to fall into the trap of “I must help them fix this.”But here’s what’s actually helpful: Listen only when you feel safe to do so Don’t carry their emotional baggage Keep your life moving — school, friends, therapy, dreams You’re not being selfish. You’re being sane . Let’s talk about stigma Broken home. Illegitimate affairs. Failed marriage. These words carry society’s shame , not yours. But the truth is: You can still be kind and whole You can love your parents without liking their behavior You are not broken. You are becoming. The more we speak, the less stigma survives. I feel guilty… How can I not try to help? You may ask yourself: “How can I just sit and watch?” “It’s my family, my parents — how can I not be involved?” “What if they split and I did nothing?” This guilt is normal. But remember: caring is not the same as carrying . Trying to be the bridge between broken adults is a heavy and unfair job . You didn’t break it. You don’t have to fix it. I feel responsible for my siblings — I have to protect them Many older children feel they must: Keep the house together Manage younger siblings’ emotions Be the emotional adult in the room But you’re not their parent.You are allowed to feel helpless. And still love deeply. You’re doing your best. But you need support too . I feel numb. I resent them both. That makes sense. When the people who raised you begin to break each other — you shut down. You might even think: I don’t care anymore.  But that’s not the truth. You care too much, and that’s why you’ve gone silent. Resentment is not rebellion — it’s a sign of emotional exhaustion. What do I do when they force me to take sides? When parents fight, they sometimes pull children into it: “Tell me I’m right.” “At least you understand me, right?” “Don’t be like your father/mother.” It’s okay to say: “I don’t want to take sides. I love you both.”“I need space. This is hard on me too.”“Can we not make this my battle?” You’re not betraying them. You’re choosing emotional safety. That is mature , not selfish. What if one parent is wrong — can I help the other? Yes, maybe one hurt the other more. Maybe the pain is unequal. But still — you are their child, not their therapist . If you’re worried for one parent’s safety or mental health, support them as a child , not as a fixer. Offer comfort. Listen. But don’t let it drown your own well-being. What can I say to people who judge, gossip, or force values? Indian society often says things like: “You must keep the family together.” “Beta, sacrifice is part of life.” “Divorce breaks the child’s future.” You don’t have to accept this. Try saying: “It’s complicated — and personal.”“We are working through it as a family.”“I’d appreciate support, not opinions.” You’re not rude. You’re setting boundaries . How do I manage emotions without shutting down or falling apart? Here’s how: If you're numb  — move your body, talk it out, cry if needed If you're overwhelmed  — pause, breathe, do something grounding If you're too involved  — take a step back, journal, or speak to someone neutralYour job is to feel  — not fix. What’s the role of therapy in all this? Therapy is not just for parents. Children, teens, and adult children of broken families also need a space to: Unpack guilt, resentment, helplessness Speak without fear of hurting anyone Build emotional boundaries Feel seen, not judged At SEVEE , we understand how hard it is to live in a house that doesn’t feel like home anymore. You don’t have to walk alone.This is your space to pause, breathe, and be heard. Gentle scripts to say — to self and others To Yourself: “I am not the cause of their conflict.” “I’m allowed to love them and protect myself at the same time.” “I am not wrong for needing peace.” To Well-Wishers/Relatives: “I know you care, but this is not open for discussion.” “Please don’t involve me in adult matters.” “Support means presence, not pressure.” Closing note, When your parents are fighting, cheating, or separating — it feels like the ground beneath you is cracking. But your heart doesn’t have to. You can still grow, heal, and thrive — even if they don’t. It's Not Your Fault... And if your voice feels small right now, therapy at SEVEE is your place to grow it back.

In everyday conversations—and even therapy sessions—people often say things like: “I feel she doesn’t like me.”“I feel like I’m going to fail.”“I feel I’ll never be enough.” But here's the truth: These aren't feelings. They’re thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions —disguised under the word “feel.” Understanding the difference between emotions, feelings, and thoughts  is one of the most powerful steps toward emotional clarity. At SEVEE, we don’t just listen to your story. We help you find the real words —the ones that untangle confusion and bring healing. What Are Emotions? Emotions  are your body’s fast, automatic, and instinctive response to what’s happening right now.They’re not chosen. They just happen . They are: Biological Universal (everyone feels them) Physical (you feel them in your body) Examples of emotions:😨 Fear, 😠 Anger, 😢 Sadness, 😍 Joy, 😮 Surprise, 😖 Disgust They rise and fall quickly, often within seconds or minutes. Think of emotions as your body’s built-in alarm system. What Are Feelings? Feelings  are what happen after  the emotion hits.They’re how your brain interprets  those physical sensations and assigns meaning. They are: Conscious Mental + Emotional Shaped by past experiences and personal context Examples of feelings:Hurt, peaceful, rejected, anxious, hopeful, lonely Feelings last longer than emotions—and they can be named, talked about, and explored in therapy. Feelings are the mind’s way of understanding the body’s signals. Then What Are Thoughts? Thoughts  are mental constructions—beliefs, judgments, assumptions, and narratives. But here's where most people blur the lines: We say "I feel"  when we're actually thinking  something. ❌ “I feel she doesn’t like me.” ✅ “I think she doesn’t like me, and that makes me feel anxious.” ❌ “I feel like quitting.” ✅ “I’m thinking of quitting because I feel exhausted.” The moment you use “I feel” to describe a belief  or judgment , you’re stepping into thought territory—not emotional truth. Why This Matters (Especially in Therapy) When you mistake a thought for a feeling, therapy gets stuck. You stay in your head, repeating the same mental loop—without ever touching the real emotion  underneath. But when you pause and name your true feeling... “I feel rejected.”“I feel afraid.”“I feel exhausted.”“I feel invisible.” ...that’s when you begin to heal. At SEVEE, we help you pause, feel, and name . Because that’s how clarity is born.Not by fixing the noise—but by listening underneath it. A Simple Table to Understand 🔍 Element ⚡ Emotion 🧠 Feeling 💭 Thought What it is Body’s raw response Meaning of the emotion Mental judgment or story Comes from Instinct (brainstem) Interpretation (limbic system) Beliefs (thinking brain) Duration Short-lived Lasts longer Can repeat in loops Examples Fear, anger, joy Hurt, anxious, calm “I’m not enough”, “She’s judging me” Verbal Clarity “I feel scared.” “I feel nervous.” “I think she hates me.” Everyday Misuse of "I Feel" (And the Truth Beneath) We all do it. Here are some of the most common misused “I feel” statements —and how to say them with clarity: ❌ Misused Statement ✅ Emotionally Clear Version I feel she doesn’t like me. I think  she doesn’t like me. I feel  anxious. I feel I’m not good enough. I tell myself  I’m not enough. I feel  ashamed. I feel like giving up. I can’t see hope  right now. I feel  hopeless. I feel he’s using me. I believe  he’s using me. I feel  hurt and confused. I feel like I’m being judged. I assume  they’re judging me. I feel  insecure. I feel stupid. I judge  myself. I feel  embarrassed and small. I feel like I don’t belong. I think  I don’t fit in. I feel  lonely. I feel like a failure. I believe  I’ve failed. I feel  ashamed. I feel like no one cares. I notice  lack of response. I feel  neglected. I feel she’s lying to me. I suspect  she’s hiding something. I feel  uneasy. I feel like I’m annoying. I fear  being too much. I feel  anxious. I feel like quitting. I am thinking  of quitting. I feel  emotionally drained. I feel like everyone is better. I compare  myself often. I feel  inadequate. I feel like I’m failing. I worry  I’m not doing enough. I feel  scared. I feel like they’re laughing at me. I believe  they’re mocking me. I feel  humiliated. Clarity Is Power Next time you say “I feel…,” pause. Ask: Is this a true feeling , or a thought in disguise ? Because when you name your emotion, you don’t just get clarity, you begin to reclaim your power. At SEVEE , we’re not here to fix you.We’re here to help you see clearly, so you can walk forward—with awareness, courage, and grace.

From the Desk of Parita Sharma Dear Fellow Therapist, This one’s for you, who sits silently in the chair week after week, listening to stories soaked in sorrow, repetition, resistance—and something strangely addictive. Let’s talk honestly today. Not as professionals, but as humans who hold space for other humans. Because sometimes, dukh becomes dopamine. Yes, you read that right. The pain, the drama, the heartbreak—over time, it isn’t just suffering. It becomes a pattern. A loop. A chemical comfort zone. A home, even if it’s burning. Why do they do it? Because it gives them a story. Because suffering feels like proof of depth, of goodness, of effort . Because somewhere, someone taught them that if they suffer long enough, they’ll be rewarded —with love, with redemption, with a breakthrough. Because in chaos, they feel alive. And in calm, they feel empty. Because attention, pity, and self-righteousness are softer pillows than accountability. The truth? They don't just come to therapy to heal. Sometimes, they come to preserve  the pain. To keep telling that same story. To feel the thrill of tragedy. To justify why they’re stuck—because look how much I’ve been through. They say they want to heal, but unconsciously, they’re getting high off the suffering. It’s not a moral failing. It’s wiring. And it’s hard to unhook from. How do you identify it? You’ll feel it. In your gut. In that moment when progress knocks, and they slam the door. When every insight is met with “yes, but…”When sessions feel like loops, not ladders. Watch for these signs: They romanticize  their pain. They reject every possible exit. They fish for validation, not transformation. They say they want clarity, but resist it at every turn. They wear their suffering like a badge of honour—or a crown of thorns. And you? You’ll start to feel stuck too. Heavy. Foggy. Frustrated.That’s your cue. How can we replace "dukh ka dopamine"? First—breathe. Don’t take the bait. It’s not your job to rescue  them from their suffering. It’s your job to reflect  it back, gently but firmly. Here’s what I’ve learned over time: Name the pattern.  Compassionately. “Do you notice how we return to this place often?” Let them see the loop. Stay curious, not reactive.  If you get pulled into their emotional theatre, you lose the plot. Use clean language.  Don’t over-sympathize. Don’t collude. Stay grounded. Remind them of choice.  “Pain may be inevitable, but suffering is optional. What are you choosing today?” Invite them into discomfort.  Not just of the past, but of the present moment where change lives. Remember Tom Cruise’s line? from "mission impossible" “It’s just pain.” That’s what we need to model—neutrality. Show them that it’s safe to feel pain without  turning it into identity. A closing whisper. Therapy isn’t always about soothing.Sometimes, it’s about disrupting.We are not comforters of wounds; we are midwives of awareness. And sometimes, the kindest thing you can do…is to gently ask your client: “Who are you without your dukh?” Let that question sit.Let it simmer. Let it wake them up. For more such discussions join Psych-Social   "Social" for your therapeutic interventions and peer supervision. With you in truth and service, Parita Psychologist, CEO SEVEE"Where clarity is more sacred than comfort."

In therapy, we often talk about goals, patterns, trauma — but rarely do we pause and ask a very basic question: What are the values guiding your life?  And more importantly — are they really yours? For many people, what they call “values” are actually silent expectations passed down from childhood. They aren’t born from awareness, but from adaptation. These values once helped you survive, gain approval, or stay safe. But now, they might be the very things keeping you stuck. Are Your Values Truly Yours, or Just Programming? Most of us grow up in systems — families, schools, cultures — that reward predictability and obedience. From a young age, we’re taught what’s “right,” what’s “good,” what’s “respectful.” Over time, we absorb these ideas and call them our values . But pause for a moment. Do you value selflessness… or were you conditioned to never have needs? Do you value family… or do you fear what happens if you ever walk away? Do you value hard work… or are you terrified of being called lazy? This is where reframing your values  becomes essential. Not to reject everything, but to sort through it. To ask: Is this value still serving me — or silently sabotaging me? Why Reframing Your Values is a Radical Act of Self-Awareness Reframing your values doesn’t mean throwing them all away. It means redefining them with intention, not obligation. Because when your values come from guilt, fear, or survival, they will never give you peace. But when they come from clarity, connection, and choice — they become your compass. This is the work we do in therapy at SEVEE . We help you slow down, step back, and take an honest look at the beliefs you live by. We ask: Who gave you these values? Who benefits when you follow them? What would change if you chose your own? Reframing Your Values: The First Step to Emotional Freedom If you’ve ever felt stuck, guilty, not good enough — it may not be about who you are. It may be about who you were trained to be. You don’t need to become someone new. You just need to become someone true. Kabhi socha hai? Your freedom might begin not with changing your life, but by reframing your values.

A letter from Parita Sharma — RA:WON Playbook | SEVEE Dear Narcissistic Abuse Survivor, If someone ever made you feel like the most special person in the world —and then left you confused, drained, and doubting yourself —this is for you. They said all the right things.They messaged you morning to night.They promised forever within a week. It felt magical. Almost like fate. But then it changed. You started walking on eggshells. You tried harder to keep the magic alive. You blamed yourself when they pulled away. You thought, “Maybe I’m too much. Maybe I ruined it.” Let me gently tell you: That wasn’t love. That was love bombing . A cycle of fast affection, followed by sudden coldness — designed to hook you, not hold you. I’ve been there. I know the high. And I know the crash. This piece isn’t to shame you — it’s to free you . To name what happened. To tell you that it wasn’t your fault. And to remind you: Real love doesn’t confuse. It grounds. So let’s walk through what love bombing is, why it happens, what signs to look out for — and most importantly, how to find your way back to yourself. You’re not alone. And you’re not broken. You’re just finally waking up from a very well-designed illusion. With care, Parita Sharma Founder, SEVEE | Survivor | RAWON Whisperer What is Love Bombing? Love bombing  is when someone showers you with extreme attention, affection, or praise — especially at the beginning of a relationship — to gain control or power over you. It might look like love.But it’s actually manipulation. It’s not always intentional, but it’s always damaging. Because it tricks your nervous system into feeling safe —then leaves you abandoned, anxious, or craving the very person who harmed you. Signs You’re Being Love Bombed “You’re my soulmate” — too soon Constant texting, calls, or check-ins that feel overwhelming Big gifts or declarations without deep emotional connection They push for quick commitment: moving in, exclusivity, even marriage They get upset if you set a boundary, need space, or move slower Love bombing  isn’t about getting to know you.It ’s about sweeping you off your feet — so you won’t notice your feet are leaving the ground. What Happens After the Bombing? This is where most survivors get stuck. After the highs of love bombing come the lows : Coldness or distance Passive-aggressive comments Guilt-tripping Sudden disappearances Silent treatment Or emotional withdrawal until you  chase them And if you don’t? They might come back and do it again —more flowers, more charm, more promises. Until you’re so dizzy, you stop trusting your gut. Why Do People Love Bomb? Because it works. Love bombing  gives them power, admiration, loyalty — fast. And for someone who craves control or fears abandonment, that rush is addictive. They might believe what they say in the moment —but they can’t sustain it. Because it was never love. It was need. It was control wrapped in warmth. A Gentle Truth from SEVEE You didn’t fall for something silly. You responded like any human would — to kindness, care, attention.That makes you loving , not naive. But now…you get to pause. You get to ask: Was that love, or was I being emotionally managed? Real love doesn’t make you beg for clarity. It doesn’t vanish when you say “slow down.” What To Do If You’ve Been Love Bombed Name it.  That’s where your power begins. Stop blaming yourself  for “ruining” something fake. Go slow  in future connections — notice who respects your pace. Talk to someone who believes you.  Who holds your truth with care. At SEVEE, we don’t judge your story.We walk with you through it — gently, at your pace.Whether you're confused, hurt, angry, or just tired of doubting yourself… You’re welcome here. Book your safe session with SEVEE Because you deserve real love — not emotional bait.

What Is It Like to Be a Psychologist? It’s not about fixing others . It’s about learning to hold space  — for pain, confusion, hope, contradictions, and healing. You don't just study theories. You begin to study yourself — deeply. You learn how childhood, trauma, loss, joy, relationships, and culture shape people — and how to gently walk alongside them as they rewrite their stories. Will It Be Overwhelming? Yes. At times, yes. Because psychology makes you look at things — in others and in yourself — that most people avoid. You’ll see wounds in clients that echo your own. But that’s also your power. Because awareness doesn’t break you — it builds you . Good training and supervision will help. And if you’re in therapy yourself, it becomes lighter to carry. Will I Go “Koo Koo” If I Study Psychology? No, you won’t go koo koo . But your illusions might. Psychology peels away the masks — yours and others’. You may feel “off balance” at times because you’re learning to feel  instead of numb, question  instead of obey, reflect  instead of react. That’s not crazy. That’s growth. What Do I Need to Become a Psychologist? Depending on your country, here’s a general path: In India: BA / BSc in Psychology (3 years) MA / MSc in Psychology (2 years) Specialized training (Counselling, Clinical, Organizational, etc.) MPhil / PsyD or Licensure (if Clinical or Diagnostic work) Also: You need therapy, supervision, deep reading, ethical integrity, and emotional maturity — the kind you can’t fake. Closing note: You don’t become a psychologist to look wise. You become one to be present , to listen , to be human — with others and yourself. If this still feels like your path…Then maybe you’re not becoming a psychologist. You’re becoming you. Join Psych-Social to keep yourself updated and informed. It's your journey from theory to therapy chair.

They’ll ask it with raised eyebrows. With smirks. With concern wrapped in sarcasm: “Are you out of your mind?” He? A romantic hero? Is he out of his mind? - people pre-DDL And maybe you are. Because who, in their right mind, dares to dream that big? To believe when there’s no proof? To stand tall in rooms built to shrink you? But that’s the thing. Greatness isn’t born in logic. It’s sparked by audacity  — the fire to believe you can, even when everything says you can’t. The world doesn’t hand out space. You claim it. With boldness. With vision. With madness, maybe. But most of all — with belief. So if they ask, “Are you out of your mind?” Smile. And say, “Exactly.” Because sometimes, that’s all it takes — a little bit of madness, and a whole lot of audacity. Sometimes, you have to be out of your mind… to get where no mind has ever been. At SEVEE, we believe in that kind of madness. Come home to your truth . Think Counselling. Think SEVEE. www.sevee.care

Dear You! Maybe everything feels a bit too much right now. You’re carrying heartbreak, confusion, or betrayal that words can’t fully explain. You feel stuck — lost between who you were and who you're supposed to be. Some days, just getting out of bed feels like a battle. The music you once loved now sounds like noise. The hobbies, the dreams, the laughter — they don’t call to you like they used to. You feel isolated, unseen, unheard, like you don't quite belong anywhere anymore. The mind races when you want it to rest, overthinking every word, every decision. Focus slips away. Sleep plays hide and seek. Procrastination has become your middle name. You started to get triggered very easily, irritation has become your identity. You begin to self-harm, with addiction and poor lifestyle, with unhealthy choices and bad company. You allow yourself to get punished, hurt, and bothered. Even your own body feels heavy — tired, achy, restless for no clear reason. Immunity has become low. The body and face have started feeling old. Grief sits quietly in the corners — grief for people, places, even versions of yourself you’ve lost. You don't care anymore. Maybe it’s a job or a relationship you didn’t choose to leave. You feel stuck and cannot find your way out. Maybe it's anger that feels bigger than you know how to hold, snapping at the ones you care about most. And underneath it all, that whisper creeps in:"I am not enough.", "I am too much.", "It’s all my fault.""Maybe I’m just broken," or "I don't have real friends."I am all alone." "I am such a disappointment, always a failure." "What will people say, loser?" once again."There’s no real purpose to any of this."What am I even doing on this earth?"​If any of this feels like your heart’s unspoken language, you're not broken. It's called "being human".You don’t have to figure it out alone.We’re here — to listen to you, understand and walk with you, at your pace, toward a life that feels like yours again. Welcome Home! Let's Talk to learn to name your feelings. Because now more than ever, in the world of e-connections, an individual is feeling most disconnected. Emotional Intelligence is the intelligence is something that is irreplaceable in the realm of progressing era of AI. Ever thought, what will you do, if the AI is taking over your job? Well we no more are required to work on our handwriting, mug up tables, and all those things that were game changer 5 years back are now extinct. Whatever you need is thumb away, in these fast pace TODAY is unable to perform from the mistakes of YESTERDAYS, in these ongoing continuous challenging new changes there is no plan of FUTURE. EQ is the demand of today, as IQ is now taken over by AI. Knowing yourself and connecting to the innermost critique is now more important that ever. Is what I am feeling is normal? SEVEE is facilitating to you a safe space to find answer with the most important person in this world "YOU". Let's begin this important connection by knowing and naming what you feel. Click here to checkout your membership plans. Love, Parita

Woh badla hai, ya phir badla hai ? For a narcissist, it’s never transformation - it’s a reset button. Not a reboot. The person is the same, only the strategies have changed. They were losing, or they had already lost control over you. When their tactics failed, when the smear campaign didn’t break you, when you stood your ground and let the RA:WON reveal itself - something shifted. Narcissist don't just leave you - they take revenge. The mask didn’t just slip. It shattered. They are not heartbroken. They are not hurt. They are defeated. It’s not guilt. It’s not shame. It’s not regret. It’s defeat - and RA:WON doesn’t lose. So what do they do? They hit the snooze button. Suddenly, their love  is back. But not for you. Not even for the world. It’s for their own reflection - because in their bubble of delusion, it’s important that you  are the broken one. So they can play the hero. But now - you see yourself. You’ve accepted your truth. You stopped clinging to their illusion. You embraced reality. And when the illusion crumbles, when the old tactics no longer work - RA:WON becomes Kumbhkaran. A deep, calculated sleep. This doesn’t mean the devil is gone. It means - hold on. The game is still on. New game plan New strategies New rules. Same ending - gaslight. Your reality starts shifting again. You begin explaining.Pleading.For mistakes you never made. When their insecurities erupt, they project. If you absorb the projection, life becomes bearable. If you don’t - All hell breaks loose. New actors enter. But the story? It remains the same. They win - At the cost of Your reality, Your identity, Your love. They thrive while you shatter. Once again, left to pick up the broken pieces - Not yours, But the ones they strategically placed in your hands. They walk away - Wearing the disguise of your confidence. While you - Stumble through the rubble of their fears and insecurities. Stay connected with your reality . Meet real people. At COR https://www.instagram.com/reel/DJrkTsxzghM/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Author:  Parita Sharma | Founder, SEVEE | RAWON Whisperer When Reality Feels Distorted: How Narcissistic Abuse Undermines the Basics of Being It’s basics. It’s elementary. And that’s exactly what a narcissistic dynamic deprives you off. We’re not talking about grand gestures. We’re talking about water . The metaphorical and emotional kind. The Water-Milk-Wine Confusion: What Is Reality Distortion? You ask for water.He gives you milk.You say you’re thirsty.He adds ice, sugar, churns it into a milkshake.Still thirsty.He brings you juices, smoothies, wine.Still parched.And then comes the guilt punch— “You’re so ungrateful. Look at all I’ve done for you.” And somewhere, you begin to believe it.You start thinking maybe you are  ungrateful. Maybe you  are broken. Maybe you  ask for too much. But here’s the truth: Water is basic. Milk is luxury. A narcissist replaces your simple need  with exaggerated alternatives so you forget what you actually needed in the first place. This is when reality feels distorted and you are deprived of basic need . It’s designed to weaken your internal compass until you can no longer trust what you know is missing. The Basics Are Not Too Much to Ask A Picture Together - A client once said, “He won’t even click a picture with me.”She sobbed, then paused, and said, “Maybe I’m being immature.”But here’s the thing:In today’s world, wanting a partner to acknowledge you publicly , or take a photo together  is a basic  gesture of connection. It signals: I belong with you. I am seen. When this need is deliberately denied, you’re being starved of visibility — not attention — but emotional acknowledgment . Weaponized Wellness - Another example: “Wake up early, go for a walk, exercise. You’ll feel better.”All said with a gentle tone —But the narcissist knows  you barely slept. That you’re drained from caring for others or carrying the emotional load of the household. Sleep deprivation disguised as care  is still control. Subtle Put-Downs Wrapped in 'Suggestions' - “You’d look great with short hair!”Then when you actually cut it — “Oh, I was just joking.”“You need to socialize more, your friends are amazing.”But when conflict arises? He takes their side, never yours — and you’re left doubting your own loyalty . These aren’t mistakes. They’re patterns. A narcissist’s ‘care’ is never neutral. It’s strategic. To create scarcity , confusion , and a cycle of trying harder to earn love that should’ve been unconditional. What Does This Do to a Survivor? It creates: Self-doubt  (“Maybe I’m overreacting”) Emotional confusion  (“Why do I feel unseen when he says he loves me?”) Low self-worth  (“I can’t even explain what’s wrong, maybe I am the problem”) Guilt and shame  (“He’s so nice to everyone, maybe it’s just me”) Crippling loneliness  while in the relationship All because the basics were distorted.  And basics matter. How Can SEVEE Help? At SEVEE, we don’t dismiss the small things. We know the pain behind not having your partner take a picture with you.We understand why it hurts when your song choices are mocked.We listen when you say you feel invisible, even though the world sees you as "lucky." We help you: Relearn what healthy basics  look like Rebuild trust in your own emotional compass Name and untangle the covert gaslighting  you couldn’t explain Recognize the patterns  and not just the events Learn boundaries , self-care , and self-belief  without guilt We believe healing begins not with fixing you - because you are not broken - but with waking you up to your own knowing . Reality Distortion is Real. But So is Clarity. If this resonates, you’re not “too much.”You’re not “crazy.”You’re not ungrateful. You’re dehydrated. You’ve been offered wine, but all you needed was water . Come home to the basics. Come home to clarity. Come home to yourself - with SEVEE . Book a session with a SEVEE therapist today: www.sevee.care We speak your language. We hear what you’re not  saying.

Excerpt from The Alchemist  by Paulo Coelho: “The legend of Narcissus. A youth knelt daily beside a lake to contemplate his own beauty. He was so fascinated by himself that one morning he fell into the lake and drowned. At the spot where he fell a flower was born, which was called the Narcissus. When Narcissus died, the goddesses of the forest appeared and found the lake, which had been fresh water, transformed into a lake of salty tears. ‘Why do you weep?’ the goddesses asked. ‘I weep for Narcissus,’ the lake replied. ‘It is no surprise that you weep for Narcissus,’ they said, ‘for though we always pursued him in the forest, you alone could contemplate his beauty close at hand.’ ‘But… was Narcissus beautiful?’ the lake asked. ‘Who better than you to know that?’ the goddesses said in wonder. ‘After all, it was by your banks that he knelt each day to contemplate himself!’ The lake was silent for some time. Finally, it said: ‘I weep for Narcissus, but I never noticed that Narcissus was beautiful. I weep because each time he knelt beside my banks, I could see, in the depths of his eyes, my own beauty reflected.’” — Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist A Story Not Just About Vanity — But About the Pain of Not Being Seen Most people know the story of Narcissus as a warning against vanity. But Paulo Coelho, in this delicate passage from The Alchemist , turns the tale on its head. He shifts the spotlight from Narcissus to the lake—the quiet witness to his presence, the one that weeps not for the boy, but for the reflection of itself it saw in him. This isn’t a story about arrogance. It’s a metaphor for emotional neglect  and projected love . When You Become the Lake in Someone Else’s Story Have you ever found yourself drawn to someone—not just for who they are—but for how you feel  when you're with them?How their attention made you feel alive, beautiful, seen? In many relationships—especially those touched by narcissistic dynamics—you may realize, too late, that you weren’t truly being loved…You were being used as a mirror . And when that person leaves or withdraws, the grief isn't always about losing them. It's about losing the version of yourself you only recognized through their eyes . Just like the lake—we weep not for the person, but for the reflection they gave us. The SEVEE Lens: Emotional Invisibility and Low Self-Worth At SEVEE, we see this again and again in therapy. Clients come to us feeling confused after being in relationships where they gave everything - love, patience, presence—but felt emotionally starved. They weren’t met. They weren’t mirrored back. And now they don’t know who they are without that other person. We call this emotional invisibility in a relationship - a state where you existed in someone’s orbit, but your soul was never acknowledged. Healing Begins When You See Yourself—Not Just Your Reflection The lake mistook the reflection in Narcissus' eyes as a sign of connection.But true connection is when someone sees you , not just what you give them. At SEVEE, we help you turn inward—with empathy, without judgment.You are more than the love you give.You are more than the mirror you became. We help you return to your own reflection—clear, grounded, and whole. Do you feel emotional invisibility in relationships? Ready to be seen-truly? Book your confidential session today: www.sevee.care Follow us for healing reflections: @ seveecare on Instagram, Threads & YouTube https://www.instagram.com/reel/DLrJhJitV3d/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==